tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post4911602275235545653..comments2024-03-02T13:20:05.410-05:00Comments on The Corner With a View: Dating with DistanceAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10845051786114528609noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-3315895849938943562011-09-15T11:00:40.252-04:002011-09-15T11:00:40.252-04:00After reading this belatedly, I have to say "...After reading this belatedly, I have to say "Long distance relationshippers unite!" Being several hours apart is definitely a cross to bear. For me, the past 2 years of our relationship have been a challenge to abandon impatience and envy for trust in God. When The Beau was in England for 6 weeks this summer, it made me appreciate adoration chapel visits and finally start reading "Love and Responsibility."Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06628206579067878095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-55697338650457291142011-08-06T15:13:16.496-04:002011-08-06T15:13:16.496-04:00"His problem," said B., "was not wi..."His problem," said B., "was not with the girls he dated; it was that he didn't feel special in the relationships."<br /><br />I had a lot of problems with the things Max's girlfriend said or did, to be honest! Just didn't write about them. For instance, her reaction to him saying cuddling could be a near-occasion of sin was shockingly selfish. "For you, maybe," was the response (if I remember correctly). Well, lady, if your boyfriend finds that to be a near-occasion of sin, you better change your ways to help him out!<br /><br />Good eye, B.! Thanks for giving us greater insight into the male perspective.not a minx, a moron, or a parasitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04799393593685552159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-84001247096991046152011-08-05T17:42:31.665-04:002011-08-05T17:42:31.665-04:00Love reading your thoughts on all of this! I have ...Love reading your thoughts on all of this! I have never been in a long distance relationship (nor a "real" relationship in a long time) but I have definitely experienced the emotional distance, which I think can be worse than the geographical. Can't wait to read more about what you both learn from your experiences... maybe a guest post from B. sometime???!Lieslhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04568652187821916186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-46843541388355872932011-08-05T06:46:39.984-04:002011-08-05T06:46:39.984-04:00We all have seasons in our lives when we cannot sp...We all have seasons in our lives when we cannot spend alone time with our beloved, whether the separation be due to distance, work or raising little ones. Writing letters is a wonderful, intimate way to communicate.Mary @ A Simple Twist Of Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642960618014762293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-47584651133694548302011-08-04T13:44:20.459-04:002011-08-04T13:44:20.459-04:00I enjoyed this post, Julie! When Bryan and I got e...I enjoyed this post, Julie! When Bryan and I got engaged and then faced nine months of separation as he moved to Montana and I stayed in Michigan, the distance was something we both dreaded. While I'm not going to deny that it was painful in a lot of ways, our relationship (even though we'd already been together for two years) grew stronger through the difficulties. Some blessings we found in the separation were the development of a deeper appreciation for each other through missing each other, and the push to have more focused and meaningful communication when we did get the chance to talk to each other (and hurrah for modern technology and the communication opportunities it gives). I hope you two also grow in your relationship through the challenges. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-70176853827873716042011-08-04T12:37:50.330-04:002011-08-04T12:37:50.330-04:00Beautifully Julie. You two make a nice couple. I h...Beautifully Julie. You two make a nice couple. I have read and watched "The Painted Veil." Oh, painful story.Stacy Trasancoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14638075878905614981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-12525624747312770182011-08-04T12:19:45.852-04:002011-08-04T12:19:45.852-04:00This is a great post! I love your take on distanc...This is a great post! I love your take on distance. I'm so happy that you and B. are making it work. I have never been in a long-distance relationship myself, so reading about a successful one is very intriguing.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08599333986761793150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-1996287027079040452011-08-04T11:11:57.387-04:002011-08-04T11:11:57.387-04:00I would love to hear more about how you got to kno...I would love to hear more about how you got to know each other despite the distance. What did the early stages of dating look like? - Trista (can't seem to log in right now!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-43142807340541512082011-08-04T11:07:17.435-04:002011-08-04T11:07:17.435-04:00Great post! My husband and I dated for almost 8 ye...Great post! My husband and I dated for almost 8 years before we got married. For over half that time we were living in different cities -- between 3 and 6 hours apart at different points in our relationship. We would see each other 1 or 2 weekends a month. In between visits we talked on the phone (thank goodness for cell phones with free long distance!), emailed, instant messaged, and wrote letters. It was incredibly hard at times, but it really made us appreciate the time we spent together. What you wrote in your post about communication and honesty hits the nail on the head. These are, of course, essential to any relationship, and even more so when you throw distance into the equation.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04707939521057556980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-62608819931276006242011-08-03T17:50:23.872-04:002011-08-03T17:50:23.872-04:00Well said J-Rob. All things have a purpose, each s...Well said J-Rob. All things have a purpose, each situation a time and a place. Even if we are not content with the circumstance, it does not make it a bad one. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01719522588542214322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-35522444339391105882011-08-03T17:18:39.730-04:002011-08-03T17:18:39.730-04:00"Girls enjoy over-analyzing everything. I'...<i>"Girls enjoy over-analyzing everything. I'm of the opinion that analyzing a person is not the same as getting to know them. Moreover, over-analyzation shows mistrust. It says, there is more there, and I want to know."</i><br /><br />That may explain a lot of conversations between me and my most recent ex-girlfriend. Sample conversation:<br /><br />Me: "The sun rises in the east."<br />She: <i>"WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT!?"</i>Anthony S. Laynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14807873592896092136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617480612533506385.post-22198073180337967592011-08-03T16:57:29.153-04:002011-08-03T16:57:29.153-04:00Love this. I'm in a four-hour-apart relationsh...Love this. I'm in a four-hour-apart relationship myself. As two grad students, we don't have the time/money to visit more than every other weekend. We've been doing this for almost all of our 2.5 year relationship! It took me until Advent this past year though to realize all the spiritual benefits. I can offer up the frustration, I can grow in patience (I'll be working on that one for a while), I can work on a more fulfilling prayer life (Adoration, etc), since we have a fairly routine visiting/calling schedule. I feel less pressured to leave school early to hang out with him, so I'm more likely to go to daily Mass.<br /><br />Sanctification comes in all shapes and sizes. ^_^Alliehttp://hereisthechurch.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com